I never thought I’d be looking for a nanny. Not once did it ever come up in conversation with Steve before we had Aidan, neither did the idea of putting our “kids” into childcare, it just wasn’t for us. I planned to stay home and Steve planned to work. Over the last six months my mindset started to change. I missed the challenges and relationships you find in the workplace, I missed using my brain for more than reciting nursery rhymes and remembering the last time I took him to the potty. Aidan and I do lots of activities together but I still missed feeling and being creative, independently.
Steve and I agreed that we wouldn’t try for another child until Aidan went to preschool, so not for a couple of years yet. The timing just doesn’t seem right and we’re happy being a little family of three. As Aidan becomes more and more independent, I am too. I’m also more comfortable leaving him in the care of others as he has very little trouble in communicating his needs. I’d spoken to a friend in my mothers group, someone I’m very close to who has a son the same age as Aidan, who agreed to look after him but I’m having second thoughts about mixing one of the best friends I have here, with money. I wish we lived near family and that option was available to us but it’s not and I have to find other alternatives.
It’s only 3hrs a day (9am-12pm), 3-4 days a week and the occasional full day once or twice a month. Having a carer come to our home, essentially just to play with him and to give him morning tea makes more sense for our family. I’d be able to get my work done during that time and do tedious things like go to the post office without having to bribe Aidan with Tiny Teddies to keep quiet, also I wouldn’t have to go to bed as late. Steve was hesitant at first but some brilliant opportunities have come up for us in 2011 that we just can’t pass up on. We like that I’d still be at home, Aidan would just have a playmate who could keep him entertained and another adult in his life who would make him feel safe.
So now the hunt begins to find just the right person to invite into our home and care for the most precious person in it. I’d love to hear if you have a nanny and how you went about finding her. Did you use an online database that you have to pay registration fees to access? Did you place an advert in the local paper? Do you use a friend? So many questions I know but I’d like to start interviewing people as soon as possible and I need all the help I can get!