When I went to visit the Damn You Alexis studio a few weeks ago Megan got me trying on almost every one of her pieces and absolutely insisted that I take the Space Skirt home with me. Initially I said no, I had nowhere to wear it, that my bum was too big and my legs weren’t that great. She told me to “shut up and just take it“.
Some might consider it harsh but it was said kindly, just like a best friend would say. We both knew it was my lack of confidence, not the skirt. She said to hang it in my wardrobe until “I needed it” so that’s what I did. From then on every time I opened my wardrobe my lack of confidence, my irrational fear of a skirt, a piece of fabric, stared right back at me… so I had to wear it.
It’s a totally outrageous outfit I know, definitely not how I’d style it to go out in public unless Hi Five needed a supporting act! Aidan adored it as soon as I came outside. I did a twirl for him and we jumped around which is what we’re doing in the photo. He said “Wowwwwww” so I pranced around to make him giggle, which made me giggle and made Steve almost cry with laughter. I suppose it’s not everyday you see your wife with smurf blue legs wearing a metallic bubble mini skirt.
He did say I was the cutest space martian he’d ever seen 😉
I was really looking forward to this week’s theme because for me personally, this skirt pushed buttons and was definitely breaking a lot of unwritten rules, especially rules for bigger ladies. I talk a bit about loving what you’ve got but please, don’t anyone assume I don’t have hang ups because I do. It’s just I’ve spent so much time in my life wishing I was something better, that if I was skinnier/taller/blonde/etc that if I resembled someone else of a higher beauty, that I would feel better about myself. For years it hasn’t worked, so I concentrated on just having fun and once I did that I started to actually feel better about myself. Once I started feeling better I gained confidence and from that I didn’t just wait for opportunities… I created them.
Tights & Flats*
A big shout out to Amanda who was offering up four pairs of barely worn flats* on Twitter and kindly sent them to me for nothing more than postage. She sent me Silver, Gold, Pastel Pink and Denim ones and they’re the comfiest flats ever!
I could list a hundred things I would change about my body but it wouldn’t do me any good, or anyone else for that matter. Imagine how different your day would be if when you looked in the mirror or saw your reflection in a shop window, you looked for something awesome about yourself rather than something negative. Think about it. This is what I’m currently trying to educate my brain to do. Try it! It’s hard because most of us automatically go for the negative. Like this picture above for example, I should be thinking “wow look at my waist” but instead I instantly think “ugh I hate my fat arms“.
I’m going to feature this skirt again with a completely different outfit at a later date and I’m going wear it out at night and in public. This skirt pushed my buttons… so I’m pushing back! Until then Aidan and I will dance on the front lawn together and giggle.
Now go and check out the other ladies outfits which are “Breaking The Rules”:
Nicola ~ 2 Many Cupcakes
Eryn ~ Bearly on Earth
Courtney ~ Loving the Reflection
Meg ~ Bargainista on a Hunt
Anna ~ Bargain Fatshionista
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