I get a lot of questions about how to deal with the dreaded chafe. The warmer weather rolls around and in our minds we’re lustfully dreaming of pretty printed cotton dressed we can twirl about in but before we click “Buy Now” we’re reminded of the irritating stinging. The bow-legged walks. The jeans you forced yourself to wear all last summer.
Chafe isn’t pretty. It hurts. The worst part is it hurts much more than physically, it’s almost as if chafing has a direct link to your self esteem. What I hope to achieve with this post is that you kick that “direct link” in the ass and remind it that your awesomeness rubbing together is nothing to be ashamed of.
I’m not just talking about the whole box-gap/thigh-gap drama, that’s another tale all on it’s own. Chafe can occur in areas other than the thighs, it can be under your arms, your breasts, your neck, your belly… basically anywhere skin touches skin and it’s hot and sweaty. I know, this is not the prettiest topic to write about but we’re in deep now, let’s keep going.
… and tunics. This was me for a long time. In warmer months I’d always find a way to make leggings work with a long top so I didn’t have to worry about my thighs rubbing together and they were way cooler than jeans. If you want to start wearing tunics and dresses leggings are a great way to work yourself up to it and they come in so many colours, fabrics and patterns now.
This is an easy solution for most, slip your shorts on and go. However they can create unwanted lines, can roll up, slip down and ultimately they add another layer. Having grown up wearing black bike shorts under everything I was quick to ditch them for something a little more freeing.
I was sent a pair of these to try and whilst they were lovely and soft they just didn’t do it for me personally. Maybe I got the size wrong, maybe the top of my thighs were just too soft to keep them in place, who knows. I wanted to love them. A lot of the Aussie Curve ladies swear by them. That’s the thing with chafing, it’s such a personal thing. You have to try all the options until you find what works for you.
This is my holy grail. I put a generous amount on my hands, perch on the edge of the bed and rub it into my inner thighs where they touch and tend to chafe. I wash my hands and I’m out the door. I can go all day twirling about in a dress no problem. It changed my fashion-life. In summer they usually sell them in boxes of two at a discount, buy four and it will last you more than a year. Freedom I tell ya!
There are special powders you can buy or you can just stick to baby powder but personally I haven’t found them to work. Lots of mess, lots of fuss and no result. Personal choice though, depends on your level of chafe and if you have dark carpet.
Are you kidding me, unless they’re denim shorts forget it!
Actually that’s what prompted this post. I was at the outdoor mall, it was over 30 degrees and I was in a barely-there sundress and I still felt like I was melting. A lady about my size and age walked by miserably in thick jeans, a tank top and a cardigan to cover her arms. She fidgeted with the sleeves, she’d sweated through the back and her brow was wet. She did all that to cover herself. It killed me. It was killing her.
I wasn’t brave enough to hug a random stranger and buy her 3B cream but I sure as hell can urge you to!
There are still so many days of Summer left, please don’t spend them hidden under dark heavy clothing. Your legs deserve to meet the sunshine (sunscreen too ladies), to wear shorts, to wear dresses and pretty little skirts. Knees deserve to meet the sun too, you’re the only one stopping you. Every part of you is lovely… even the chafing parts!
Want more posts about chafing? Here are two of my favourites for you, you’re welcome!